I know a couple of people who go through difficult times in their lives and don’t know their purpose. They try to make ends meet but it just doesn’t seem enough. At the end of the day, the question always arises, “Who am I?”

I can definitely relate to that statement. At least it resonates from a time where I didn’t know who I was as a person.

Your purpose in life should be defined by who are as a person.

I remember one time, I was at the lowest point of my life and it was quite annoying, to be honest. I knew that it would pass but I couldn’t really bear the feeling in that moment.

I was in high school, I really didn’t have much friends and I started to define myself of whom I’m associated with. I grew up believing that I wasn’t enough. I wasn’t really with the cool crowed and I couldn’t really be the cool kid.

We always seem to be on a journey, but our identity as a person is something that we all should take care of because it’s the strongest part of our belief system.

You are not defined of what you do but you are defined of what you believe in. This will hold true and will radiate your actions in everything you do.

If I believe that I am a good person, who is to say that I am not?

You are defined of what you believe about yourself.

Some of us believe in lies and believe that we are not enough, no matter what we do in our lives, it feels like it’s not enough.

The actions we do are a huge thing, sometimes that’s what we need. A little push. The push that will help us get to where we want to be for our happiness.

Have you every heard the saying, “Good things happen to those who wait.”

I think this is true, there is a time for everything, everything happens for a reason, you are where you are because you are moving towards the bigger picture, one way or another.

Sometimes, when waiting becomes too long, you just need to move forward, make that push for yourself and keep moving forward.

No one is life is going to push you. You are your own best motivator.

If I expected people to define me as a person and receive affirmation every time I do something, I’m not fully fulfilling myself as a person.

Affirmation is great and we definitely need them sometimes, but you are your own best believer.

Someone once said to me, “You are your own best friend.”

I totally agree with this, you need to be happy with yourself, you need to be having conversations with yourself, and assure yourself that you’re doing what makes you happy.

I don’t think it’s selfish to do something that makes you happy. You want something that will benefit your life. Essentially, you have a life. Live that life. Don’t live your life for others.

Your happiness is more important than what people think of you.

I don’t think you should limit yourself in the opinion of others.

The best things in life are free. Money can’t buy happiness. Money can’t buy time.

BUT

We also don’t want our bank account to define us.

Money is not the best motivation. If your goal is to be rich, then you will never be happy.

Money comes and goes. It will always be there.

Your purpose in life will be your money maker.

What is your purpose?

I like learning new things. I can take up a challenge and look through the accomplishments. I want to look at failures as lessons learned, I’ve stumbled a couple of times but as long as I’m learning.

2016 was interesting. I met a lot of new people. I enjoyed my time exploring the possibilities and adventures with random strangers. It took me out of my comfort zone, that’s for sure. I know there is a lot more coming this coming year.

Money always seems to be an issue for some young adults. It’s hard to manage and hustle at the same time. “I feel like I’m definitely in the lion’s den,” said Eric Bell, who is 20 something in his discussion of money issues.

Well then… Money is an issue. We learn to hustle in the city and work hard for our success. This is something that works but sometimes it’s harder for some. We should stick to what we plan and finish it. We don’t want to live in regret and live wondering what could have been if we pushed a little harder. If you still have a chance, do it. Try even harder.

I’m one of the excessive spenders who enjoys the luxury of living the lifestyle of a millionaire. I’m not there yet but I’ve been playing pretend for quite sometime but need to face my realities. At least for now.

Let’s be honest with ourselves, our debt will accumulate to the point where were paying it off until we retire. Is that the kind of life we want? That doesn’t sound interesting to me. So what are we going to do about it? Work harder and hustle harder.

Lessons? I know someone who’s named “Lessons,” because she can’t stop talking. Ok, back to the subject: Don’t spend more than what you need. If you are schedule to be outside Canada, be there but don’t stay any longer because you’ll end up spending more. Right Nick? Yes. You’re right. Follow

Relationships are so important. You need the continue building them. Nobody wants to be alone, so this is why we need to talk to people. A simple, “Hello,” will definitely create a huge impact in your life and to others.

Isolation will not do any good for you. It’s one of the reasons why people become depressed but some people like being alone. Which I think is fine but no one is ever alone. Just think about it, you have your family, friends, acquaintances and business partners. Everyone plays a huge part in your life and they charge you up every single time.

Isolation doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. Maybe we like being alone and enjoying our company. That’s OK. It’s not a bad thing but there is always someone in your life that fulfills you and encourages you. My point is that relationships will always be there and we need them in our daily lives. If you have a good friend, make sure you keep them. If you have people tearing you down, you don’t have to be friends with them.

We’re our worst enemy and our worst critic, I’m sure there are things where we wish we did differently. I’m sure some of us went through something and we just can’t seem to forgive ourselves for doing that stupid thing. I know, it’s annoying, isn’t it?

You probably have a friend who did something to you and it’s easy for you to forgive them but when it comes to something you did that probably caused you shame or regret, for some reason, we can’t seem to forgive ourselves. Why???

Stop criticizing yourself. Enjoy yourself. Enjoy life. You are not meant to be perfect. Ugh it’s so hard to be perfect and it’s damn right exhausting. Anyway, we can never accomplish perfection, deary. I want to say that I – kind of – stopped saying mean things about myself.

Although, I do make fun of my weight gain, it shouldn’t matter to me. Why does that even matter? It doesn’t define who I am as a person. Why should it be such a huge thing in my life that I gained weight? So what? I should simply enjoy life and all the food that Toronto has to offer. That doesn’t mean I should live recklessly, I’m just saying.

I didn’t accomplish some goals this year. It’s so hard to maintain goals. It’s never easy, especially when you have excuses that leave you side-tracked. I think it’s best that we continue to work hard and learn from our mistakes, let those become lessons. I hate lessons but it’s part of life.

Where is 2017 going for me? Well, it definitely looks brighter. I’ve fought some battles and won some, I’ve been knocked me down but the only way is up, so I need to stand up and bring my game face.

2017, you’re mine.

 

Ps. I’m going to Miami next month.